STOP PULLING, The POWER is IN THE PUSH

While cleaning my house over the weekend, I had finally made my way to the living room and began vacuuming the living room floor. In order to make sure I got all the dust particles from under the couch, it required me to move the couch so that I could reach parts are the carpet that the couch covered. In doing so, I attempted to pull the couch in on direction but the couch didn't move very far. In my next attempt to move the couch, this time I decided to push the couch and to my surprise, the couch seemed to almost easily glide right out my way. I then began to wonder why pulling the couch was far more difficult than pushing the couch. Then my 5th grade science lesson about the concept of "force" reminded me that force serves to our advantage when you push. When you are pushing, force adds additional weight to your body causing more friction and ultimately making the task of moving the couch easier. Opposite of pushing, when you are pulling, force serves as a disadvantage because force works against the body weight creating less  friction thus making the task of moving the couch more difficult. You know where I'm headed with this right? Perhaps the issue is not the problems or the people that we face in our lives, its the fact that we often overwork ourselves by pulling on things or people versus pushing through, and in some instances that may even mean pushing OUT THE WAY.

Have you ever wanted something for someone so bad and you felt you were doing your "job" of pushing them? Have you ever found yourself believing that "they just need a little push" only to discover that despite all your "pushing"the person remained exactly where they were afters weeks, months and even years of pushing? Well perhaps my friend that may be because while you may believe your pushing, you're in fact pulling because if in fact you were pushing, the friction would've worked and that person would be far along by now. The challenge with pulling is that is makes work harder and can even sometimes lead to injury. This explains the medical term of a "pulled back". When we engage in the act of pulling, we make things harder on ourselves, especially when it comes to pulling people. If I have to pull you, I now put myself in a compromising situation. This same concept holds true with life changes in general. We find ourselves not finishing school, or not financially stable, or not in that desired relationship because too much time is spent pulling on us. Perhaps this explains the importance of God pushing us THROUGH hard times and NOT PULLING on us, although sometimes we leave him with no other choice.  Is your back tied yet? Are you suffering from a "pulled back" as a result of pulling or being pulled on?

It's pretty obvious to see at this point that the POWER is in the PUSH. When I push my way through, the end results is not only do I get through but I'll get through swiftly. If I have to be pulled through, chances are I'm making things a lot more difficult for myself. Yes, there are times where we have a friend or loved one that needs a little push, but if you find after a few pushes the person has refuted your advice or support, and it'll show in their actions, then you'll end up pulling and experience the results of a "pulled back".  The reality is, especially as adults, we can't want more for people than they want for themselves. No matter what we may believe, force does not favor pulling so no matter how hard you pull on that boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, mother, sister, brother, cousin, uncle , aunt or whoever to change, it won't happen until they are able to see the changes themselves so in the mean time go ahead and PUSH THEM RIGHT ON OUT YOUR WAY and you PUSH THROUGH to where you need to be. Too many of us right now are walking around hunched over with bad backs... It's time to seek some physical therapy and turn that pull into a PUSH!!

-Nique